RELATIONAL THERAPY WITH WHITNEY ROGERS
Helping parents heal relational trauma and build loving and fulfilling relationships with children and loved ones.
when you’re a parent but the way you were raised hurt.
For those living in California or Oregon, weekly relational therapy is available to help parents who are motivated to raise their children with respect, but whose personal histories make parenting stressful, confusing, and overwhelming.
Parents who were raised by emotionally immature, volatile, unavailable or mentally ill parents often feel at a loss for how to raise their own children. Without an experience of attuned, loving, and appropriately boundaried parenting, these parents often discover that their instincts in raising young children are impacted by their own childhood experiences.
You might have a goal to raise your child with respect and care, but find yourself using the same tactics of blame, shame, and guilt that you experienced as a child. Or, you may be the most loving, understanding, and flexible parent, only to explode when things become too much.
If you know how you want to parent but are struggling to put this into practice with your kids in real time, let's talk.
Parents with developmental or relational trauma from their own upbringings often feel disappointed and frustrated with themselves. But if you weren’t raised with a positive model, you have no way of implementing the ideas, strategies, and values you’ve chosen for yourself.
Relational therapy helps parents align behaviors with values by bringing unconscious programming to light. Grieving the pain of loneliness, unpredictability, or neglect from childhood, however uncomfortable, opens the heart for current relationships to become more loving and authentic.
How therapy can help
I understand because I have lived it- from sacrificing in a desperate attempt to parent perfectly to building an internal sense of calm, confidence, and authority as a parent. Your love for your child is not the problem- your unrealistic expectations of yourself, focus on the wants and needs of others, and avoidance of standing up for yourself is what’s causing the pain, exhaustion, and frustration. And that’s where therapy can help.
What to know about working together
Availability
I work with individuals in California and Oregon for relational parenting therapy. Therapy appointments are held online on Zoom for parents seeking to heal relational trauma and build more loving and fulfilling relationships at home.
Frequency
Therapy sessions are held on a weekly basis. For those recovering from relational and developmental trauma, meeting at a predictable interval is an important part of the healing process.
Format
Weekly therapy sessions are tailored to your needs. Healing relational trauma takes time, and rushing through it prevents true healing from taking place. Each person heals in their own time. Our work will support you to process and heal without feeling overwhelmed.
Getting Started
If you see yourself in some of what you’ve found here, and you’d like to begin the process of starting therapy, visit my contact page, and I will reach out to schedule an intake consultation.